Back On My Feet


Self medication, I wonder if that’s ever gonna be a thing for me after an unpleasant four days of oscillating body temperatures, lethargy, lack of appetite and plain feeling sick.

Fours day on Ibuprofen and a supper’s bowl of fufu later had me puking, a bitter, phlegmy and sickly yellow expulsion all the while gagging. It doesn’t help that I experienced my gross imagination first hand, simultaneous puking and diarrhea.

Unpleasant.

It’s excellent to surround yourself with great friends. I can’t imagine reaching and footing the hospital bills otherwise.

Great friends.

Hospital information systems in this country are flawed. It takes too damn long to make it to the nurses’ pre-diagnosis and in my case, the coming of Jesus to the consulting room. Don’t get me started on making payments and the back and forth between the pharmacy and the cash collection point.

Urgh.

Institutions tend to forget that at their core is human beings, those who oil its gears and those whom they serve. I am grateful for the show of humanity from the staff. My case (severe malaria) was one for admission but I got detained instead in a staff room in the accident and emergency ward due to a lack of beds in the main wards.

Because, humanity.

I was given four intravenous infusions that lasted hours, especially the last one. I drifted in and out of sleep either sitting or lying and everything between.

A walk back from the hospital, some coconut, a miraculous completion of my medication and lots of rest later, I am back on my feet like nobody’s business.

 

 

 

My Year In Review


 

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2013 has been one helluva year, it in many ways, has been my greatest year by far.

Did I make a million dollars, get my own crib, get a girl, sleep less, finally figure out what the hell I wanna do with my life or finally figure out what I’m talented at? Um well, no!

I think this year has been the greatest chiefly due to one thing, I’ve been happier! Yup, that simple. If you’re like that with me, you’d know I can be depressed for long periods, this annoying mood usually arising from my own self-pity and constant nagging.

I dunno what my pals think, but personally, I feel like this year has seen that at an all time low and boy am I glad. Starting out this year, instead of the usual page long or so resolutions I wrote and started abandoning by the end of January, I simply resolved to be a better version of myself. Vague, I know!

But hey, here I am!

I’ve always loved tech, heck I wanna program although I don’t think i’m too bright at this, but i’m trying anyway.

I love music and try to make some, that doesn’t seem to be going great either, at least commercially anyway. For fun however, mehnnn [Kwabena Jones voice], I dey ball roff roff… hehehe (would’ve added lol but just read a ludicrous comment that lol means lucifer our lord. sighs)

Musically, I discovered, well more like fell in love with a new act, again if you know me, you can easily figure it’s something to do with rap. So yeah, since Mr. West has decided braggadocio is the ultimate way to go in his music, lyricism coupled with style still tops the list for me, welcome Yonas. Y’all should check him out. Which brings me to the other musical highlight of the year, EDM (Electronic Dance Music) and boy does Yonas blend HipHop with EDM so well, so yeah, ultimate win win!

Oh let’s not forget Wiley and his Eski beat (aka Grime).

Anyway, as I’m sure most (at least what I think is normal) people are, the stasis isn’t quite right, I hate sitting around doing nothing, though that’s what I seem to do best (I swear I have a PhD). This year once again saw Chale Wote in the middle of the year and Ind!e Fuse to commence the Christmas festivities. I was very much a part of both events, helping out in my own small way the Accra dot Alt team. Yaaaaay! The way then I make happy eh…..chale!!!!

I’m also happy for Akolabone, the clothing company I’m a part of. We made some moves this year, made some mistakes and are learning from it and trying to improve ourselves and finally taste resounding success! You really should check out previous designs and watch out for next year’s collection; it’s gonna be off the chizain (I dunno,did I spell that correctly?)

Em what else? Oh yeah, I think I got more sociable this year. At least I have more friends acquaintances now in school than I did in all my two years so far. Big win chale! And twice, I almost got a girl, silly illusions both times chale. LOL!

Well, I think that’s been about it. I’m sure there’s more stuff (or less) that I could blabber on about but chale…

I’m glad the year is almost over and there’s a new year to look forward to. If there’s one thing I benefited from this year, it must be a reduction in the amount the haze in my life. I can see better than before (more clarity), but still not clearly enough. Oh well, next year, hurry your ass on here so I can see what’s up.

Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

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Unworthy Regrets


This is a link someone shared on Facebook that I just had to post on here. The original article is here

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives. People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality.

I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

 

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.


Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way,you win.


4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again. When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

Life is a choice. It is YOUR life. Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly. Choose happiness